We’re reading this book right now for book club and it is SO good!
Last night we discussed a section in chapter 4 where Brene Brown suggests writing yourself “permission slips” before going into a situation.
For example: When she met Oprah, Brene gave herself permission to “act goofy.”
One of mine was, “I give myself permission to be my true self, no matter where I am or who I am around.” The host of our book club took it a step further by asking the question, “What emotion is that allowing?” That led me to… rejection.
It’s scary being authentic. It makes you feel vulnerable and exposed.
If you say what you think those around you want you to say and act the way you think they want you to act, then you can assume they’re going to like you. And even if they don’t, it doesn’t hurt quite as much as it could because they aren’t rejecting you, they’re rejecting the image you’ve created. And that’s easy to mold and change into something they will like.
Going into a situation as your true self, being real and authentic; that’s scary. If they don’t like you, then they really don’t like you. And then you face the choice to stand in your authenticity or go back to putting on a mask.
You know that saying that says, “The higher the risk, the higher the reward?” That couldn’t be more true for this situation.
Yes, it’s a big risk to determine to be authentic, even if it means rejection. But the reward far outweighs the risk, because the reward of being authentic is deep, genuine relationship.
When someone accepts and loves your true self, they love you. No pretending. No impressing. Nothing but love and appreciation for one another.
Yes, it’s scary to risk rejection. But it’s even more scary to risk missing out on the best relationships in your life.
Authenticity leads to finding your lifelong best friend, your spouse, and, most importantly, God.
There is nothing more freeing than being real with God.
He already knows who you are deep inside because He made that part of you and He loves that version of you more than you will ever know. He longs to see the real you come out, because, “God can’t bless who you pretend to be (Steven Furtick).”
God wants you to be real so you can be really blessed. ♡